'Connections'... a massive positive from this year.

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'Connections'... a massive positive from this year.
In a world where we are currently being forced to disconnect from other people through the form of touch, hugging and just general togetherness, my heart has seem to become even more open to allowing people and friendships in.
I’m one of the huggiest people I know ;-) all my friends will tell you this, in fact not just friends... but anyone and everyone I meet!  I just want to reach out and hug people, this year obviously I’ve had to change that.
What I have noticed is how many more close friends I have made this year.   I don’t mean just general friendships but people who really get me (and me them), people I can be 100% myself with but for some reason I haven’t always allowed this to happen prior.

I’m not a person to have hundreds of friends, although social media might give you a different impression.  I’m incredibly happy in my own company and for that reason I think I’ve kept my heart quite closed to new and close friendships.
I can count on one hand the people that I feel love me inside and out and  who I can be fully myself – the funny me, tired me, slightly drunk me, emotional me, party animal me, introverted, broken, spiritual me, – accepting no matter what part of me they are hanging out with.
In the past 9 months those core people have still been there more than ever but I have also found even more of those special souls, I didn’t actually realise I’d closed myself off to close friendships until now – I think it’s got a lot to do with growth in myself but also the need for support here in Oxford.   I’ve let those people in and I am so happy I have, I feel very loved, accepted and cared for and all I needed to do was to open my heart.
I’m sharing this with you for a couple of reasons.  Firstly to confirm to you that the journey of discovering ourselves is never ending and secondly PLEASE keep your heart wide open in a world where we are being encouraged to disconnect.
Allow others to support you as you don’t need to do life alone, no-one wants you to be perfect, people just want realism and authenticity.